Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. -Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

I used to carry others ' hate like it was part of my identity.

I used to internalize hate like it was my responsibility to internalize the perceptions and actions of other persons.

I used to fight hate with hate every time I came across it, as if it was my responsibility to defend myself each and every time.

Then I began to think about the person (s) who acts hatefully towards me. Have I done something so hurtful to them that they need to treat me as such? How much energy do I waste fighting hate with hate? Is it worth my time? Is it healthy to internalize another person's hate towards me? The answer to all of these questions is no.

So, I began to remove myself from situations or places where I experienced hate. I began to select my battles. Not every hateful remark or action is worth fighting about. My peace of mind is too precious.

When presented with hate, I decided to focus on what I could control and do big (focus on my work) or small (sing, dance, walkway) things to remain in control.

Love thyself,

Proteawell (Joanie)